The weekly perspective
One question to ask yourself
What am I sacrificing by choosing to think about this?
Journal on this - Calories. Your body. Your future. Your past. What they said. What she said. What you should have said. What they might do. What are you sacrificing, aside from your finite time, by giving so much air time to those thoughts? Are they worth stealing your time for?
Something to consider
Your reluctance about working isn't something that needs to be eradicated. You can coexist with it. You can note the procrastination and act anyway
Not that you procrastinate. Definitely not. Not you... What would it look like to be aware of it, note it, then take action regardless? What stops you from doing that?
One thing I'd tell my younger self.
Don't think of the relationship as over, think of it as complete
Here she is, doling out dating advice at the same time as mocking the men with podcasts who do the same. Except this isn't dating advice. It's reframing. It is (in my opinion) a beautiful way to look at much of life, notably relationships and more often than not, romantic relationships, that have taught you something, shown you something, and created space for something even more colourful to come.
One thing to try this week
Write a compassionate letter to yourself
Bit rogue this week, but if you've done any ETPHD course or coaching you'll know this task so well. It's a core ETPHD resource for our clients.
1. Take 5 minutes to write about something you don't like about yourself - behaviours, actions, habits etc. Something that's hard for you that you feel frustrated that you can't rid yourself of. Write about how it feels. How you feel about yourself.
2 Think of someone you love and respect, dead or alive. Picture them in your mind.
3. Write a letter to yourself, from their perspective. What would they say? What words would they use?
4. Consider, YOU wrote those words. YOU are able to speak to yourself in that way. What stops you from doing that?
5. Ask yourself - what are your fears or blocks to self-compassion? I did a podcast on these a few years ago if you're unsure
A few things to tell you...
Struggle post extreme diet? Bodybuilder or photoshoot experience? Anna is doing something special for you this week to help you recover your relationship with food after it got f*cked - I'll be sending out an email on how you get exclusive first access to it so keep your eyes peeled
Managing loneliness, performance expectations and your identity on this weeks ETPHD pod
The very last EIQ Nutrition as you know it opened for early bird on Friday - this is your last EVER chance to do a course that will help you support clients with navigating disordered eating (within your scope), body image & healthful fat loss - get one of the remaining spaces here and become an EIQ certified nutritionist
There will be no more Binge Breakthrough courses until January 2025 (when I told you this before the last intake you probably thought it was sales tekkers but alas, I don't do that, honesty only from me) - every intake we've done has sold out, I expect new year new me to be no different. So join the priority list if you struggle with binge eating and you're looking for an 8 week course to help you overcome it.
One more thing...
Please share your favourite stuff.
Thank you all for continuing to share your favourite Monday email quotes. I see them all. I know how much I love seeing impactful quotes from strangers, so it means a lot that you allow me to hopefully be that person for someone else. f there's something you really relate to or know someone who'd benefit from something in this email, please share it and pay it forward. Words are magical, and if I've learned anything from writing these emails to you for years, you never know when someone needs to hear the exact thing you've got to say.
