Butter Your Own Muffin This Valentines
Interrupting a continuous streaming of Taylor and Travis dancing at the club singing ‘Love Story’ to come to you with today’s email
Why am I so obsessed with strangers I have never met can someone please tell me
It was valentine’s day this week not sure if you noticed?
I really wanted to do a smart post about loving yourself and auditioning the finger puppets but to be quite frank I was extremely busy doing important things like supporting clients and coaches and dancing to Spice Girls with my niece and I didn’t have time
Instead, I’m touching (on) it today but I need a sentence or two that separate the mention of my niece and the mention of self-love so I’d like to say happy valentines day
A day of celebrating love for others and yourself and taylor regardless of the level of romance in your life
A day to come off Instagram if it triggers you, to shout about your love if it feels right for you and to do absolutely nothing if that works for you
I for one sent a hilarious card and moved on with my day because what can I say I am a bundle of love year round don’t deny it
Back to deep diving into the safest of sex and why taking a self-guided tour is incredible for your health and something you’re definitely not doing enough of
Because a higher frequency of paddling the pink canoe is associated with a more positive body image which is probably why you haven’t seen me hate on my body since lovehoney brough out their most magic wand circa 2018
In fact self-objectification (where we see ourselves solely as objects to be desired), body shame, appearance anxiety and sexual functioning at all pretty closely associated
Such that women who finger paint are more able to associate sexual pleasure with their bodily responses and in doing so develop greater satisfaction with their bodies
Self-loving is also associated with higher self-esteem, better mood, emotional regulation which are all things that support not only our relationship with food but our overall well-being
Not to mention that taking time to nurture the bean is a way of showing yourself compassion and more so pleasure, something so many of you restrict from yourselves in some sort of manifestation of feeling not deserving of such ludicrousy
Instead of spending your time wishing your valentines was different, spend your time squirting that love back towards yourself as an act of radical self love
And remember that orgasm rates are inifinitely higher when you butter your own muffin compared to having someone (Jason) assigning someone else to butter your muffin like the little skeeze he is
Love starts at home. In your pants. With Pamela Handerson.
Have a cliterally fabulous weekend,
Em
