Masturbation May

Masturbation May has come back upon us,
Thankfully for some of us more aggressively this time,
As we dive deeper into the month of the safest of sex,
We dive deeper too into why taking a self-guided tour is incredible for your body image.
 
A more positive body image is related to higher frequency of downstairs DJing,
Which to be honest probably explains my unrivalled self love of late,
So if you can’t remember the last time you finger painted,
This one’s for you.
 
Often if you struggle with food or your body,
You feel disconnected from yourself and your sex drive,
So fingering the fine China doesn’t even cross your mind,
But now’s your chance to start re-connecting again.
 
When we have poor body image often we use sex,
Solo or partnered,
More as an avoidance and distraction technique than a pleasurable one,
I'm sure you don't know anything about avoiding feelings or distracting yourself from thoughts,
And we’re more likely to experience challenges to orgasm,
You know that thing you first felt at 24 ladies,
Both of which might explain why freelancing the glossies doesn’t even appeal to you. 
 
Self-objectification,
Self-surveillance,
Body shame,
Appearance anxiety,
Internal body awareness,
Sexual functioning.
They are all associated in the actual science.
 
Ultimately,
Women who finger paint are more able to associate sexual pleasure with their bodily responses,
And in doing so,
Develop greater satisfaction with their bodies.

Buttering your muffin may enhance bodily responses,
Pleasure,
Create a sense of body autonomy and well-being,
And thus ultimately,
Develop greater body satisfaction.
 
See guys I do still science,
It’s not all hanging out with Pamela Handerson,
And although some of the research today is a little slippery,
I think we can live with that,
Much like we lived with our 24 years without orgasm.

Many of you I think avoid it,
You have this fear around reconnecting with yourself,
And I wonder,
Is that a fear of losing this rigid control when you do?
Or a fear of finally feeling at home in your body,
And the worry that by doing so,
You'll somehow 'let yourself go'?

Journal on this. 
 
Go pop a sweetener this weekend,
Mindfully of course,
And add it to your list of body image tools,
It’s a bit more exciting than body functionality if I’m honest.
 
Have a fabulous weekend,
I’m always here,
Em x