The weekly perspective
One question to ask yourself
What do you really want?
Journal on this - where are you just going through the motions? Settling into your own discontentment? Do you really want this daily life? This relationship? This attitude towards others? Towards yourself? Be deeply honest wtih yourself. I saw Déjà Rae S speak of this earlier in the week and she pulled on my 'this is your own life' heart strings that we know I wear so tightly.
Something to consider
"Most of us think of ourselves as thinking creatures that feel, but we are actually feeling creatures that think" - Jill Bolte Taylor
Thousands of people have downloaded my free emotional eating resource (get it here if you've somehow missed it) and one reason so many of us struggle with habits we don't love is this constant desire we have not to feel. We use food, work, exercise, negativity, frustration when we refuse to acknowledge that we are in fact supposed to feel, supposed to notice an entire spectrum of colourful emotions, even the ones we don't like
Journal on this - use the feelings wheel to figure out what you're feeling this week - try a daily 2 minute journal where you articulate how you feel, as simply naming our feelings appropriately can help us self-regulate
One thing I'd tell my younger self.
"The boundary to what we can accept is the boundary to our freedom" - Tara Brach
I've been on a Tara Brach indulgence these past few weeks and alongside my best friend have found myself asking. what would Tara Brach do (WWTBD)?
Journal on this - I like to use feelings of resentment as a torch towards where our boundaries have slipped, where WE haven't vocalised or held true to our boundaries. I'm learning tough lessons on boundaries right now as they become boundaries for another person as well as myself. I can't tell you the relief that comes with the freedom of being tighter with them.
One thing to try this week
Vocalise a boundary
Without apology or martyrdom. Notice the shift in your energy once you have (and the fear as you do). The only people who get angry at your boundaries are the people who benefit from your lack of them.
A few things to tell you...
Be better at coaching fat loss with this podcast
Anna taught me about safe zone mapping on the etphd mentoring podcast this week & I learned a lot so you will likely too
How can we use weight loss medications alongside healing your relationship with food? Find out here
One more thing...
Please share your favourite stuff.
Thank you all for continuing to share your favourite Monday email quotes. I see them all. I know how much I love seeing impactful quotes from strangers, so it means a lot that you allow me to hopefully be that person for someone else. f there's something you really relate to or know someone who'd benefit from something in this email, please share it and pay it forward. Words are magical, and if I've learned anything from writing these emails to you for years, you never know when someone needs to hear the exact thing you've got to say.
