The weekly perspective
One question to ask yourself
Why can we so easily see ourselves as complex and full of contradictions, yet find it so tough to acknowledge the same complexity in others?
Africa Brooke asked this question in relation to cancel culture, and I wonder, how this shows up any our daily life? How willing and able you are to immediately shame, blame or criticise others, or indeed, decide they're 'not your type of person' because they have an opposing view or opinion. People are colourful, messy and make mistakes - how much space do you allow for this?
Something to consider
If we are prone to avoidance, we can find ourselves masking fear as anger because it feels safer
I wonder what other emotions feel so unsafe that we mask them with another? It is impossible to regulate our emotions when we can't identify or name them. I wonder if, the next time you experience a sense of intense emotion, you can get curious - is it really what you're identifying? Could there be anything else underlying?
One thing I'd tell my younger self.
Curiosity over shame
It's something at ETPHD we've long promoted, and recently I was listening to Richard Osman on Elizabeth Day's podcast and he was speaking of what he felt was his food addiction (if you're interested in food addiction listen to this). Anyway, he shared one of the things that helped his movement through this was replacing shame with curiosity and I couldn't agree more. In those moments you treat yourself or your body in a way you don't want to, instead of going to frustration and self-criticism, can you turn to curiosity? It's interesting that I acted that way, what was going on for me?
One thing to try this week
Look at your daily actions. How many of them will lead you to where you want to be in 12 months?
Take note with a bit of end of day reflection each day this week. What were your habits today? How many of them are supportive or future or present you? how many of them are supportive of stagnation (not the same as contentment or peace)? How many them are holding you back?
A few things to tell you...
Is BMI a scam? Find out here
Is time restricted feeding a scam? Find out here
Pre & post natal Q&A here
Why does no one want to work with you as a coach? Find out here
One more thing...
Please share your favourite stuff.
Thank you all for continuing to share your favourite Monday email quotes. I see them all. I know how much I love seeing impactful quotes from strangers, so it means a lot that you allow me to hopefully be that person for someone else. f there's something you really relate to or know someone who'd benefit from something in this email, please share it and pay it forward. Words are magical, and if I've learned anything from writing these emails to you for years, you never know when someone needs to hear the exact thing you've got to say.
