One question to ask yourself

Am I waiting for someone else to validate my feelings before allowing them as ok?

Waiting for a reply from that 5 minute voice note to your best friend to feel ok with how angry / upset / stressed you feel? Notice you feel more comfortable in your difficult feelings when someone you trust has said they hear you, that it's totally understandable? What would it look like to validate your own feelings? How quickly could you find peace with your emotions (and regulate them accordingly) if you gave yourself permission to validate your own feelings? This is where journaling is unrivalled...

Something to consider

To really change is to lose ourselves completely, which is one reason we hold on & avoid the change we so wish to see in ourselves

Journal on this - what have you been trying to change for as long as you can remember? But it feels like it's still clinging on? How do you feel about the idea of 'completely losing yourself'? What feelings does that invoke in you?

One thing I'd tell my younger self.

Thriving is noticing when bad things happen, thinking about them & processing them in a way that stimulates growth & development 

Thriving isn't the absence of the hard times. Is this easy or required in the moments of 'bad things'? I don't think so. Is this a pathway to feeling less suffering in the painful moments? I believe so.

One thing to try this week

Overcome procrastination by focusing on what you like about the task in the now, instead of focusing on the long-term reward

Most of us procrastinate. But I watch a lot of people use it as an excuse or reason not to do something. Focusing on the intrinsic motivation of a task (what do you like about it IN THE NOW?) instead of directing your attention to the long term reward will help you overcome the procrastination. Try temptation coupling - couple a task you don't like with an intrinsic reward e.g. only enjoying your favourite show after or when you do the thing you're avoiding, or do your worst work job in your favourite coffee shop with an iced honey oat milk latte (thank me later)

A few things to tell you...

I recorded a free meditation specifically to support your body image. It was part of the live ETPHD community class - get it here

Learn to regulate your hunger around exercise & at the same time regulate your thoughts about food with this podcast

What can fat loss teach you about running your own business? And how can you grow if you're not focused on money? Listen here

How does anxiety impact your eating habits & how many of us actually live with leptin resistance? Find out on this weeks EIQ podcast

One more thing...

Please share your favourite stuff.

Thank you all for continuing to share your favourite Monday email quotes. I see them all. I know how much I love seeing impactful quotes from strangers, so it means a lot that you allow me to hopefully be that person for someone else. f there's something you really relate to or know someone who'd benefit from something in this email, please share it and pay it forward. Words are magical, and if I've learned anything from writing these emails to you for years, you never know when someone needs to hear the exact thing you've got to say.